JTBlog

Communication is truly an amazing thing. There are so many different forms, often times we forget that words aren't the only thing showing how we feel. One way to look at the breakdown of communication is by putting it in three categories. These categories are, 1.) Words, 2.) Tone, and 3.) Non-verbal. Studies show that words make up 14% of communication, tone makes up 35%, and    non-verbal 51%. I can already see how true this is in my own life because I'm almost always an open book. I often times find myself having a hard time controlling my non-verbal gestures, facial expressions more than anything. Even though we each express ourselves differently and have different flaws in communication, there are ways we can make up for some of those flaws. David D. Burns wrote a book called "Feeling Good Together." In this book there is something called the 5 secrets of communication, these are ways to help us improve relationships specifically. I would like to take a moment ...

There are a lot of things that we each have to deal with in life. We don't get to choose what we go through, but we can choose how to react to each of the trials we face. Two of the things we learned in class that really stuck out to me were, "the ABCX Model" and "The Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking." We were able to apply these in class which I really liked. Seeing these principals applied to actual situations made it easier to identify these things in my own life and the lives of those close to me. In the ABCX model each letter stand for something specific. A: Actual event, B: Both resources & response, C: Cognition, and X: Total eXperience. Its important to know the ten forms of twisted thinking as well. The following are the ten forms: 1. All-or-nothing-thinking 2. Overgeneralization 3. Mental filter 4. Discounting the positive 5. Jumping to conclusions 6. Magnification 7. Emotional reasoning 8. "Should statements" 9. Labeli...

This last week we spoke about marital intimacy and the benefits of knowing the differences in males and females views on intimacy.  As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, we believe that sexual intimacy should be saved for your spouse only after marriage.  God gave us the commandment to "multiply and replenish the earth." This has always been apart of Gods plan. Marital intimacy is a blessing and gift that we have been given to both bring us closer to our spouse, and to bring children into this world. The only problem is that Satan has distorted and warped the way the world views sexual intimacy and sexuality in general.  As we discussed this topic, I was reminded of a message that was shared by Sister Nelson. The message is called "Love and Marriage." I would like to share 4 truths that she brings to attention, and discuss each one a little bit.  " Truth #1:  Truths about love and marriage are brought to you by the Holy Gho...